If you have been in personal development for even a short time you will realise that our beliefs determine our reality.
If for instance, you believe it’s hard to make money, then your mind filters out all the easy ways and presents to you all the hard ways that prove the belief to be right.
Henry Ford famously said: ‘Whether you think you can or think you can’t you’re right.’
In the 17 years I have been coaching and training life coaches I have come to realise that in fact all negative beliefs and self-talk come down to just 3 core beliefs. So, this is my IP based on my own research – if you can address these then your whole life transforms:
- I am not worthy – if you have this as your core belief you will tend to be a workaholic and spend all your time achieving your goals to prove you are good enough. In fact, a belief that it’s hard to make money is really that ‘I am not worthy of making money easily’.
- I am not lovable – if you have this belief you will tend to sacrifice your own needs to please others. A belief that there aren’t any good men in the world is just really ‘I don’t think I am lovable enough to attract a good man’.
- I am not safe – if you have this one you will tend to avoid taking risks and not put yourself out there. A belief like I don’t think I can make enough money from setting up a business, is really ‘I don’t feel safe that I can make enough money’.
So, what do we do about them? Well, we have many processes in the Evolve Now! programs that can help, but at a core level for now, I want to share with you a summary of a process by Byron Katie.
Step 1: Ask yourself if that belief is really true. Is it 100% true for everyone in every circumstance?
Step 2: Ask yourself how it makes you feel when you believe that negative belief.
Step 3: Ask yourself what your life would be like if you didn’t believe it anymore.
Then list reasons why it would change your life.
Now make a conscious effort to behave as if the belief wasn’t true.
Write below which belief you are going to work on changing.